Last week I shared a bit about how I’ve been having a hard time being happy with what I have. As a result, I’ve gotten a bit of design paralysis. I know everyone has moments like these, but when I’m in the middle of them, I feel like I’m all alone. And the worst person ever for not being happy with what I have.
I’ve got some pretty awesome readers and bloggy friends that helped me out of my little hole. You all made me realize that I’m not alone and that it’s just a phase that will eventually pass.
And it currently is passing. At least a little.
This week I’ve been able to see my home in a different way. I’m focusing on why I love it and why it feels like home to me. Which no magazine or blog picture can give me.
This is my home and I’m choosing to love it!
These are a few things I’ve recently realized that are helping me focus on the good in my home.
1. Keep it clean
This isn’t new to me. I realize this every time I clean (which isn’t as often as it should be, I’ll admit!). A clean home feels bigger. It literally feels like you have more room. Maybe because you aren’t tripping over shoes and toys anymore! When your house is clean, your eye focuses on all your pretty things, too. You’re no longer distracted by the mess.
2. Let the light in.
Natural light makes your home feel fresh and clean. Even in the winter. It’s so much more pleasing to the eye than lamps and overhead lights. I try to keep the blinds and drapes open (and lights off) for as long as I can. The minute the kids wake up, the blinds are opened. It’s like my home is taking a deep breath of fresh air!
3. Use pretty organization
I have had fun finding great hiding places for toys, jewelry, and accessories lately. I have never loved the look of bins and boxes. I’m okay with them in the basement, but I don’t want them in my living space.
Look for empty drawers in your furniture pieces, covered display bowls, even pretty locker baskets around your home. If they aren’t filled with anything – fill them!
We keep toys and instruments in our vintage secretary, my skimpy jewelry collection in a mercury glass trinket on my nightstand, and my scarves in a vintage locker basket. It makes me smile every time I go to grab one of my hidden treasures knowing that they’re beautifully displayed and yet hidden at the same time!
4. Only keep what you truly love.
Weed out the things that are just okay. You’ll be happy when you walk into a room and see your favorite things – which are no longer hidden by your just-okay-things. On a similar note, don’t overstuff your home. Keep your home uncluttered. Not every single square inch of floor and wall space needs to be covered.
I’m still working on this one, for sure! I have a tendency to want something hung on every single wall and want rooms to be filled with furniture and accessories. But then I see rooms that are less cluttered and they just feel so much happier to me. They aren’t overstuffed and yet I love them. So, I’m learning to let my most favorite pieces shine. And I’ve noticed that I love them even more when I can see them!
5. If you want to make improvements to your home, start with the least expensive project that will give you the most impact.
You can love your home and still want to improve it at the same time. That’s okay. And totally natural. Painting walls/trim, ripping up carpet to reveal hardwood floors, even replacing old, grungy vent covers can give your home a fresh look without costing a ton of money.
When you’re making improvements, don’t feel like you have to do everything at once. If you start a project, finish it in a timely manner. Don’t rip up your whole house and then get so exhausted that you can’t put it all back together. Make the improvements that you can and see them through until the end. Walking through a house filled with unfinished projects is stressful and can bring up resentment. Not feelings you want associated with your home.
6. Lastly, stop comparing your home to others!
I know, easier said than done! But the more content you are with your own home, the happier you’ll be.
I had an epiphany the other day. It was a sad realization, but a true one. I realized that, hypothetically, if I were to design a whole house and my neighbor designed their house the EXACT same way, I’d like theirs better – because it was theirs and not mine. That’s called coveting. And it’s not healthy. I now try to remind myself of that epiphany and turn the focus back on myself and my home and all the blessings we’ve been given.
Be proud of your home and don’t covet what your neighbor has. It’s all stuff in the end, isn’t it?